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Things just got gritty and real

When you marry a man who already has children, you certainly understand that you won’t have a traditional family. You know that he comes with children and that by marrying him you are also accepting the role of stepmom. And … Continue reading

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Even when it is easy, it’s hard

My sister and niece gave us such a clever Christmas gift. They filled a jar with slips of paper. Each slip has a question written on it. They also gave us a blank journal. We were instructed to pull out … Continue reading

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Glad it’s only once a year

I feel guilty admitting it, but Mothers’ Day sucked! I am glad it only comes once a year. Yes, I am the mother to one and the stepmother to five, and though I think of myself with fairly low expectations … Continue reading

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What is a “real family”?

I’ve done a great deal of reading about stepfamilies. I’ve probably read 20-30 books on the subject. Most of them say the same thing – it takes anywhere from four to seven years for blended family to feel like a … Continue reading

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Who are our cheerleaders?

I’ve done a great deal of reading about stepfamilies. In the early days, I think I thought that if I just did enough research this would be easy. I have probably read at least 20 books on the subject. In … Continue reading

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Careful what you wish for

My oldest bonus daughter is getting ready to head off to college. She will be going to school in a town about seven hours away. Recently we have been looking ahead to orientation and trying to plan for the big … Continue reading

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Did you know that when you married him?

I recently ran into a woman that we see at church but who we don’t really “know.” She told me it was lovely to see our family each weekend. Then she asked me how many kids we have. “You have … Continue reading

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Reentry can be hard

So, I noticed that I have not written much lately – which is actually a good thing. We have been busy but it has all felt fairly normal. For awhile there, I think it felt downright family-like. We took the … Continue reading

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Strengths and weaknesses

I think that stepparenting has given me a whole new appreciation for my own strengths and weaknesses. Don’t get me wrong, I have not come anywhere near turning my weaknesses into strengths, but by being more aware of what they … Continue reading

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Different Rules for Different Kids – a good idea or a road to disaster?

So my husband and I have slightly different philosophies when it comes to blending. I think he wants us to seem like one seamless family immediately, and I am still comfortable with the fact that it may take a long … Continue reading

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